Having a wedding might seem like a nice idea. You get to wear a pretty dress, throw a huge party with all of your loved ones complete with white tablecloths and candles, and be the center of attention for a while. However, loving the idea of this does not mean you’re ready for marriage. Marriage is for the rest of your life, and entirely different from a wedding. Some people think they are ready to get married when really they just want a wedding. Below, you’ll figure out how to know for sure when it’s time to get married. Take a look:
You’re Imagining The Rest Of Your Life With Your Partner
You get a feeling you’re ready for marriage because you’re not just envisioning what your big day will be like - you’re envisioning the rest of your lives. This is often a good sign!
You’ve Had Your Own Life
Studies suggest it’s best to wait until you’re over 25 to get married - this doesn't mean it can’t work if you’re younger, just that you’re more mature and you’ve lived more of your life. This doesn’t necessarily mean you are ready, either! However, when you’re older you know yourself, and you know what you want. Most importantly, you love yourself. If you don’t, then you need to.
How can you love somebody properly, or expect them to love you, if you don’t love yourself? This isn't as simple as saying, ‘ok, I love myself now!’. It can take a lot of work, being honest with yourself, and even therapy. However, it’s always worth it.
You Have A Deep Relationship
You should have a deep relationship with someone you plan on marrying. If you can talk about difficult things and tackle issues together, and you feel like you have a connection on a deeper level, this is a good sign. Ultimately, you should be a team. Remember, having a deep connection is not the same as being codependent. Co-dependency is not healthy, and if you or your partner are codependent you will need to overcome this.
You Trust Your Partner
Trust is one of the most important things a marriage can have, and yet most don’t have it. Before you start looking for swoon-worthy rocks for your significant other you need to make sure you have this. A lot of the time, trust isn't down to them - it’s down to how you feel about yourself. If you’re insecure, you’re less likely to be trusting.You Don't Want To Change Your Partner
Never stick with somebody you feel you need to change. If it’s a deal-breaker, don’t expect it to change after marriage, as it likely won’t.
They Bring Value To Your Life
Ultimately, does this person provide value to you and your life? If not, you might want to rethink marrying them.
