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Should You Rush Your Move?

We all know that speed is often critical when you need to remove a cast. Pulling it off quickly doesn’t mean that the process will be painless, but it will over in no time. The idea that you need to get over a painful event as rapidly as possible to manage the ache itself is not new. In everything you do, you apply the same knowledge, following the belief that if you do it fast, then it won’t hurt for long. Whether you need to get an injection or you’ve decided to free yourself from the shackles of toxic relationships, you’ve probably got a little voice at the back of your mind that remains you that it’s like removing a cast. You need to get it done quickly to recover.


The truth is that, if you were to ask a doctor or a nurse, the cast analogy is far from reality. Experienced nurses prefer to dissolve the adhesive by dabbing rubbing alcohol on the bandage for painless removal. They are the first to agree that it can be a time-demanding process but that, in the end, it’s what’s best for the patient. To put things into perspective, ultimately, the metaphor of the plaster is factually incorrect. Going through some things fast could create pain and issues. To use the plaster example, the force of the pull could re-open the wound. Transposed to other situations, the consequences could be just as devastating.

However, more often than not, the cast approach doesn’t come from a logical point of view but is the result of a psychological dilemma; namely when you know you have to go through a traumatic and stressful time. Rushing through it can feel like a safe alternative to the trauma because you don’t have the opportunity to consider all options. It’s a matter of reducing the fear of the pain so that by the time you’ve come to your senses, the uncomfortable experience is already behind you.

In the life of a homeowner, there is nothing as stressful as moving home. You need to pack, protect and ship all your belongings to your new address. You need to make sure you are ready to hit the ground running in your new home, both administratively and socially speaking. And finally, there’s also the financial matter of changing properties. So, the question here is: Should you rush your move to avoid stressful issues?


It’s a big decision
Moving home is a significant decision that will impact on your family, your finances, your professional career, and your health. To go back to the plaster analogy, moving home would be the equivalent of deciding whether or not you are ready to remove the cast that protects your broken leg. In short, it’s not something you can take lightly. You need to consider all the potential consequences of your decision, from the financial perspectives to how a change of school and neighborhood might disrupt your children’s development. If you live alone, the decision might focus on comparing money, career, and location. But when your family is involved in the process, you can’t afford to rush the move. You need to sit down with your partner and children and discuss your options. As you do, you’ll find that each family member has an individual perspective, which can make it tricky to navigate your way safely to a solution.

However, top psychologists offer helpful tips to tackle important decisions. Instead of asking your family to come up with their favorite reasons to move or to stay, encourage them to brainstorm on each other’s ideas. An effective brainstorming session can help you to identify issues, worries, and solutions. Additionally, it’s important as a family to determine the one thing that matters the most during the process. Whether you focus on the housing costs or the safety of the neighborhood, your one thing can help you to go through the various step of the decision-making process without worries. While it doesn’t speed up the process, it ensures that the time you spend preparing is utilized for the best.

Have you explored all options?
Taking your time to go through a big decision is not only a matter of ensuring your family unity by keeping everyone involved in the process. You can benefit greatly from brainstorming together to address the specific reasons behind the move. You might be surprised to find out that elements that seemed to encourage a move can find an alternative solution at home. Imagine for instance that you’ve decided to move for financial reasons. You’ve found a property that has a lower price tag, and you are hoping that the move will improve your financial situation. However, what you fail to take into account is that changing home is a costly process. While the new property might be cheaper, you need to take into account the value of your current home and whether you can recover moving costs through the sale. The type of mortgage deal you would be able to get is also affected by your current situation which might have evolved dramatically since your last mortgage – in other words, you might end up with a less favorable deal than the one you already have.

Another common reason to want to change home is that you feel that you’ve grown out of space in the current property. Large families can, indeed, struggle in the typical residential house. However, you need to be completely honest about your lifestyle habits. Cluttering, for instance, is more than a popular trend that launched Marie Kondo’s show on Netflix. It’s a social disease. People tend to buy more than they need and accumulate belongings they don’t use or like, hence taking up valuable living space for the sake of their stuff. Decluttering could not only save you tons of space, but it also makes your home more comfortable and welcoming. What better way to decide to stay than by falling in love with your home again?

You can certainly help things along
Admittedly, even though you might choose to consider your decision carefully, there will be a moment when finally you come to a conclusion. If the outcome is to move, you may not want to go through lengthy administrative steps. You want to get on with your project as quickly and effectively as possible. You need to approach the situation from two different angles at the same time to be able to speed up things. Firstly, you want to research your next location in great details. Don’t be tempted to go by your gut instinct. Instead, consider spending time in the new town as a way to get to know what it feels like. You can also use this step to research local schools for the kids, visit your future employer, and check the shopping and medical facilities.

Secondly, you need to prepare your home for sale. Indeed, it’s not uncommon for homeowners to wait several months before finding the right buyer. Consequently, if you want to sell your house quickly, you need to put the necessary work in it to maximize your profits. Making the place attractive is not a matter of decor, but repairs and improvements. Fixing the pipes under the kitchen sink doesn’t cost much, but it can have an impact on the buyer’s offer. If you can’t afford to wait or repair, you can get in touch with professional house flippers who can make a quick and fair cash offer on the property.

Nothing happens overnight
Did you know that for a lot of homeowners, it’s quicker to sell their property than to find the ideal home? Indeed, if you’ve decided to move to take a career opportunity or to upsize the house, you may not have secured your next property. It’s important to understand that your next home should be carefully selected. In other words, you need to visit houses with a critical mind before you commit to a purchase. In some extent, buying is probably the time-costliest part of the moving process. Making sure you pay attention to the big things – such as old, uninsulated windows – instead of losing yourself in the distraction of the smaller elements – such as the wall color – will make a significant difference in the end result. You might even want to attend an open house venue to gather more information about the local properties!

Your emotional journey is everything
Last, but not least, moving is an emotional event. You can’t afford to rush through different feelings in the hope that they will go away. Your family will experience a variety of emotions, from denial to excitement. It’s crucial to take the time to connect with your inner self and listen to your heart. The way you feel about the move is going to affect your mental health and your experience of the new home altogether. Sometimes, taking a step back to identify your emotions and handle them is the best thing to do. More to the point, it can help you to find a balance and go through the motion in a healthy manner.

In conclusion, moving home is not like removing a cast. On the contrary, you need to be slow at times to involve your family and make sure that you’ve got everything under control. There are crucial points that you can speed up, such as selling fast, but only when you’ve handled the rest appropriately first!

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  1. Put everything in storage and rent for awhile. Don’t purchase something you will regret later

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    1. especially if you don't know the area!

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  2. I have moved over 20 times in my life - I am 35, it is hard when you dont have a choice, but I am super at packing on the fly now and my #1 tip is to keep all your clothing on the hangers, just fold them in half and slide into a big trash bag to transfer to the next closet

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    1. Oh wow, that's a lot. LOVE this tip.

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  3. I have been here 18 years and we have accumulated quite alot in this 3 story home. I never want to leave but downsizing will be inevitable .

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  4. These are some great things to think about when you are looking to move. It really is a big and stressful thing and you need to make sure you are ready for it.

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  5. No, never rush a move! Granted, my husband is in the military and sometimes we felt rushed to move when he got a new position at another base. But I prefer to plan things out!

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    1. Love your advice, and you should know! :)

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  6. Anonymous6:10 PM

    This was an interesting dissection of all the factors that go into a move many times. I tend to think it's best not to rush into a move but everyone's situation will be unique and different.

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  7. We have been considering moving for a while and it is definitely not something I want to rush! It takes so much effort, research, and money,.

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  8. Moving home is an important event in our lives. We are planning to move home next year and I don't know if I am ready for this!

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  9. We had to rush our last move. It was awful but also turned out to be the best decision for us.

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  10. We rushed our moved here because we do not want to pay rent anymore. So it was a little chaotic because painting wasn't finished yet that time.

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  11. It sure is a big decision that should be thought a million times. I've moved a couple of times in my life. Once in my hometown and then moving from my hometown to here...a thousand of miles across the pacific ocean. :) -Lynndee

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  12. Since my dad was in the military and we had to move a lot, including selling our houses, when we were younger, my mom is still tired of being rushed. She decided to sell her house and move in with her kids (living a few months out of the year with each of us.) It has taken her a long time to reach that decision, and she is super slow about getting ready to sell her house. It has been a two year process and she still has to go through about a third of her belongings. The turtle was always her spirit animal, but now that she's in her 80's she says it is the snail. The older I get, the more I realized I'm like her.

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  13. I love the cleaning out aspect of moving but hate the actual moving process...yuck! LOL!

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  14. We just moved in September as a family of eight almost 300 miles away. It was a huge tasks and was hard on everyone. Our children have never moved from the home they were born in so there was a lot of emotions for them. They are slowly adjusting to our new home and new city.

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  15. I think moving when you have a lot of stressful things going on is a tough one. Moving always creates stress even if there isn't any!

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